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At last, it feels like we are coming out of the Covid-19 Pandemic lockdown restrictions in our outdoor spaces. The streets, parks and beaches are crowded again with people enjoying delicious BBQs and picnics and savouring the long awaited heat of the sun.
Transitions are a constant theme in our lives whether this is a change of home, work, career, travel plans, health, friends or personal and professional relationships. Over the last year since the Covid-19 Pandemic lockdown, we have all experienced transitions that we didn’t think we would go through in our life time. Transitioning to new routines whether that is educating children at home, having home as work office and home, social isolation, waiting in the pouring rain to get into shops, having longer hair than ever before, getting through health concerns and of course for many, loss and grief at a myriad of levels. All these transitions have an impact on our emotions and our coping abilities. Some transitions are full of joy and excitement, whilst others can feel disorienting, disruptive and painful.
At this time of year with the onset of spring on the horizon, we would normally be starting to spring forward in our thoughts, plans and actions. The clocks are telling us to spring up, reminding us that colder, wintery times are almost behind us. Planters are refreshed and reseeded while lawns are receiving a bright uplift. Spring is a time for regrowth and renewal, and there is an air of excitement.
Normally at the beginning of February different people would be waiting for different things and outcomes. Some people will be waiting to see the benefits of a dry January or a vegan January or a dieting January and some people will be waiting to find out what cultural festival or sporting or music festival programmes are going to be coming out this year. There are birthdays and anniversaries and bank holidays and Valentine’s Day and so on and so forth.
What a year it was to reflect on given the Covid-19 Pandemic. We have really had to dig deep and find all our inner resources and resilience to get to here.
Posted in Wellbeing Practice on Nov 01, 2020
Given the continuation of the Covid-19 Pandemic as we go through the second wave, it seems appropriate to consider the concept of nostalgia. Over the past decade, a small literature on the psychology of nostalgia has developed and it shows some interesting information.
Posted in Wellbeing Practice on Oct 01, 2020
These are what psychologists would refer to as VUCA (Volatile, Uncertain, Complex and Ambiguous) times. Things are volatile in that the circumstances seem to change rapidly and frequently; things are uncertain, in terms of our own/our loved one’s circumstances and the destiny of the world/society more broadly; and, it goes without saying, there is clearly much complexity and ambiguity at present. These are unprecedented circumstances, in so many of our lives. At the same time, the present circumstances are shining a light on many positive aspects of human nature. There are many who are rallying around and supporting their communities (both real and virtual).
One cannot underestimate the importance of human beings wanting to have control over their lives. Yet we now find ourselves living in uncontrollable circumstances. We have been thrown off course and have to continually adjust to new ways of living under Covid-19 For many it is a struggle to merely survive. How can we manage in these times to look after our emotional and mental wellbeing? First, we need to remind ourselves that we have always had limits to our own control. For example, we are unable to control the weather, other people’s reactions to us or what they think of us or even our own thoughts which can sometimes spiral out of control and jump to all sorts of conclusions without any evidence to back them up. Sometimes, we cannot even control our ability to fall asleep. In these situations, it seems that absurdly, letting go of control, seems to be the only way forward as there is nothing we can do to change the situation.
Posted in Wellbeing Practice on Aug 01, 2018
August is usually a month when many people get to have holiday fun and so what better time than now to remind ourselves of how laughter can make a difference to our well-being. Most of us know from experience that having a sense of humour about things can make life a little easier for everyone.
Posted in Wellbeing Practice on Jul 01, 2018
July is the height of summer and most of us want the sun to be shining with deep blue skies and not a cloud in sight. We can hear ourselves singing happy tunes such as ‘the sun has got his hat on, hip-hip-hip-hooray, the sun has got his hat on and is coming out today’. Research has shown that there is a feel good factor that comes with wearing just the right clothes. At this time of year, it is wonderful to people watch and see the range of hats being worn. Everything from cycling caps and helmets, flat billed caps, sun visors and of course, the glamorous hats worn at the Chelsea Flower Show and a variety of horse racing events across Sussex and Surrey. We don’t have to be magical, we can just create our own magic with hats.